When we walk alongside our J&M Brides as they are planning their weddings, year in and year out, wedding planning becomes second-nature to us. But we know for the majority of J&M Brides, this is their one and only wedding, and their first time planning a wedding.
Even if you helped plan your sister's or best friend's wedding last year, the amount of decisions needed to be made for your own big day can still seem overwhelming. (Trust us, we remember our own wedding planning journey!)
So we reached out to some of our close friends and former J&M Brides to ask them what one piece of wedding planning advice they'd offer a bride-to-be in the middle of wedding planning. And we wanted to share those nuggets of wisdom with you. So let's pretend you just gained a handful of big sisters/BFFs who have gone down the aisle before you and want to help you learn from their experiences.
"Hire a professional wedding photographer and videographer as soon as possible. Don't rely on your family and friends (unless they are professionals who you hired). When you hire professionals, they are focused on previous conversations y'all have had about what you expect from them. They won't be distracted by having convos with people they know at the wedding. They will be focused on the two of you and capturing beautiful moments that you would otherwise completely forget about! Unfortunately we did not hire a videographer and relied on a good friend with a nice video camera. We don't have a wedding video. Let's just say this is a topic we don't discuss even 8 years later! Hire professionals. That's what I learned!
Also, find a couple who had been married a while and ask them to mentor y'all throughout this engagement and first year of marriage. It's always helpful to have a couple in your life who is not family and has experience in marriage. The advice and wisdom they can provide for you will be priceless. - Kelly
Stay organized and provide an agenda for the wedding weekend so everyone is on the same page. I'm a crazy planner (it's the teacher in me) so it made it so easy for everyone to know where to be and when to be there. I got complimented on this by a lot of our wedding party who had been in previous weddings where they would have to constantly text to figure out where they needed to be and when. Also create a spreadsheet of hair and makeup and times and give your bridesmaids the totals beforehand so they have cash or check ready to speed up that process. This made it a very smooth process and my hair dresser greatly appreciated it-especially since I had 10 bridesmaids, a junior bridesmaid, a flower girl, and mothers and grandmas that had to be done. - Ashlee
It's ok to say you don't like something, like an idea or suggestion. It's your wedding. Just be gracious. Also, if something doesn't turn out the way you want it or you can't do something you wanted to, don't let it steal your joy. Choose joy!
Ok, three things, haha: Remember to cherish this time you have with your family and friends, during the planning process and in the day of. Remember to take "mental snapshots" of how you felt, how he looked at you, etc. You'll flip through those in your head over the years more times than you will a photo album. - Myka
We both picked three things that were important to us for our wedding. We really tried to make sure those things came out the way we wanted and it was ok if all the other details weren't exactly perfect. It helped us focus on what was important (the marriage) and also love our wedding without a lot of stress or unmet expectations. - Dache
We hope these suggestions from real-life brides help you as you plan your dream wedding day. And if you, dear reader, have any other nuggets of wisdom for brides-to-be leave them in the comments below!